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<p>Things have been busy around here lately with lots of traveling and fun adventures and I am off to Canada next week again, alone, for six days. This weekend, starting today with the kids off school and through Monday, we have nothing on the calendar. Not one single plan. We will be staying local, hanging out with the kids, relaxing at home, eating some watermelon and maybe catching a movie. It'll be so nice. I have only two things I want to do, finish reading <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Paris-Love-Youre-Bringing-Down/dp/0374146683/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_1">my book</a> and finish my final painting for <a href="http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2012/5/22/getting-my-paint-on-weeks-two-three-and-four.html">Get Your Paint On</a>. Other than that, I will let the weekend take me where it wants.</p>
<p>Wishing everyone a good Memorial Day weekend, and sending our love and thoughts to all the service men and women who work so hard to keep us safe.</p>
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<p>What are your plans for this weekend? I'd love to hear about them.</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>Getting My Paint On: Weeks Two, Three and Four</title><category term="Art"/><category term="Creative Work"/><category term="Get Your Paint On"/><category term="Inspiration"/><category term="Painting"/><id>http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2012/5/22/getting-my-paint-on-weeks-two-three-and-four.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2012/5/22/getting-my-paint-on-weeks-two-three-and-four.html"/><author><name>Leslie</name></author><published>2012-05-22T16:50:58Z</published><updated>2012-05-22T16:50:58Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 600px;" src="http://www.lightsandletters.com/storage/GYPO_Week4_sm.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1337706560211" alt="" /></span><span class="thumbnail-caption" style="width: 600px;">Get Your Paint On - Week 4: Composition</span></span></p>
<p>The painting class I was taking, <a href="http://getyourpainton.typepad.com/">Get Your Paint On</a>, is over but I still have to finish my final painting. These are the paintings that I completed for weeks two, three and four and I am quite proud of them! (<a href="http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2012/4/25/get-your-paint-on-week-one.html">Week One is here</a>.) I got some excellent feedback from my classmates and instructors in the Flickr group, and despite the madness that has been the last few weeks, with travel and life, I was able to get everything done and be happy with what I was able to produce.&nbsp;</p>
<p>The painting above went through a remarkable metamorphosis, starting out as <a href="http://web.stagram.com/p/166716728942920427_4609223">this</a>. I had no plan and I just kept painting until I was happy with it. If I painted an area I didn't like, I would just paint it out with white or titan buff. I did that a lot, and the texture was built up and I really liked the layering process. I hope in the future to be able to direct myself more toward a goal like this, rather than flailing around and not knowing what I am working towards, but for now I am just enjoying the discovery and the process of painting. Here is what Lisa had to say about <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/18570856@N02/7185162698/in/photostream">my painting</a>,</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>"<span>Wow. That's what I said when I saw this just now for the first time. I think you have some real talent as a painter, Leslie! The colors and composition here are just amazing. The texture is also fantastic. I love the little moon too. My only suggestion is that the barn/house is a tiny bit vast and takes over a bit. I am wondering if the space would be broken up a bit if you added a window on the side the same color as the door? but further up? I think that would help the composition slightly. - Lisa"</span></em></p>
<p>For the painting below, the <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/18570856@N02/7185161748/in/photostream/">beach scene</a>, I actually did have a clear idea of what I wanted to paint. I sketched the scene out on paper first and I knew exactly what kind of colors I wanted to use. I really enjoy the color mixing process and I think all the experience I have had as a photographer and designer really helps me here. I see and think in colors all the time. I was so thrilled to see that this painting was selected by Mati and Lisa to be highlighted in the final class blog post! I included what they had to say about it below.</p>
<p><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 600px;" src="http://www.lightsandletters.com/storage/GYOP_Week3_01_sm.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1337706580911" alt="" /></span><span class="thumbnail-caption" style="width: 600px;">Get Your Paint On - Week 3: Color #1</span></span></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">From the Flickr pool: <em>"<span>There is quite a lot I like about this painting, Leslie. I love the colors, first. It's a really nice balance of warm and cool. I also think the composition is exquisite. I love the juxtaposition of the diagonal line with the straight line and how the line of the sign mirrors the diagonal line of the beach. The tiny ship is just the perfect amount of detail. This is very Edward Hopper to me. Anyhow, my only feedback is that I'd like to see more shading on the sign to make it appear as if it's popped forward a bit. The tricky thing is we haven't "taught" this yet, so I hesitate to even give this feedback! I'm wondering if even the slightest, thinnest dark great line around the edge of the sign would help move it forward a bit? Other than that, I think it's almost perfection.&nbsp;</span><span>- Lisa"</span></em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;">From the class blog: <em>"<span>Here are some things that make this painting successful:</span><br /><span>+Color: Variations in blue. Nothing is entirely flat. And yet it has a soft, flat feel to it. Balance of warm and cool colors, but cool dominates.&nbsp;</span><br /><span>+Composition: really wonderful placement of everything -- from the sign that is slightly diagonal to mirror the beach line, and the horizon line with a ship far in the distance. Nothing competes in this painting. Everything is in perfect balance.</span><br /><span>+Consistency: This painting is consistent. It's flat but it's also painterly (which is really hard to pull off successfully) and every element has the same level of paint application and brush stroke. I feel like every inch of the canvas got the same attention. Nothing is "underworked".&nbsp;</span><br /><span>+Subject matter: this painting is narrative. We are forced to ponder: "what's happening here?"</span><br /><span>Awesome piece. - Mati and Lisa"</span></em></p>
<p>After all that positive feedback on both paintings I felt awesome, and thought that maybe I can do this art thing in a meaningful way, along side my photography. The feedback is invaluable and has increased my confidence in my painting abilities, but even without that I think I would have felt proud of what I had created. I knew that I had gotten these paintings to good places, where I was happy to show them and I was proud of what they looked like.</p>
<p>My <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/18570856@N02/7185162108/in/photostream/">fish painting</a>, below, was fun to do. I almost didn't post it because it was kind of an after thought, but I am glad that I did. It got a lot of reaction on Facebook actually, from friends that were not taking the class. I painted it at the end of the day, to use up some paint I had left from the beach painting. I was just scrubbing paint on the canvas and then I added the fish shapes in a moment of inspiration. I enjoyed it, and I guess it shows. Sometimes you work so hard to pull something out of you, and sometimes it just flows.</p>
<p><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 600px;" src="http://www.lightsandletters.com/storage/GYPO_Week3_02_sm.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1337706592386" alt="" /></span><span class="thumbnail-caption" style="width: 600px;">Get Your Paint On - Week 3: Color #2</span></span></p>
<p><span class="full-image-float-left ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 295px;" src="http://www.lightsandletters.com/storage/Paint_Painting.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1337706670405" alt="" /></span><span class="thumbnail-caption" style="width: 295px;">Get Your Paint On - Week 2: Inspiration (Ed Ruscha)</span></span><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 295px;" src="http://www.lightsandletters.com/storage/Yes_Painting.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1337705656930" alt="" /></span></span></p>
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<p>These last two <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/18570856@N02/6973530052/in/photostream">paintings</a> were done for week two. The assignment was to choose a painter who inspires us and I chose <a href="http://www.edruscha.com/">Ed Ruscha</a>. I've loved his work for a long time and it tied in nicely to <a href="http://lesliedf.squarespace.com/writing/category/advice-to-myself">the typography work</a> I've been doing. I also used a photograph I had taken, of a sunset over New York, as the inspiration for the background. The process of taping out the words was tedious, but for the first time I used a bone folder to "seal" the tape edges and prevent any paint from leaking under. It worked! I really loved painting the skyline and the windows and I think I am going to try painting a few more skylines. I do prefer the realism of the skyline and the technique for painting the sky in the canvas on the left.</p>
<p>Overall I have learned so much! Just getting a push to paint once a week was helpful and <a href="http://www.lisacongdon.com/">Lisa</a> and <a href="http://www.matirose.com/">Mati</a> gave plenty of guidance and examples of techniques and styles. The positive feedback was the best, to hear that I have talent is a huge motivating factor for me. I know I love to paint and when I push myself past the ugly I can get it to a nice place. The key is to just keep working on it!</p>
<p>If you are thinking of doing a painting class, but can't commit to attending a class every week in person, this is a great self-paced and easy environment to learn. As it is with these online courses, you get out of it what you put into it. I'll be signing up for the advanced class in the summer, to learn more about shading, creating dimension and deciding on subject matter. I can't wait!</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>Neil Gaiman's (Awesome, Inspiring, Funny) Commencement Speech at the University of Arts</title><category term="Art"/><category term="Art College"/><category term="Creative Work"/><category term="Inspiration"/><category term="Neil Gaiman"/><id>http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2012/5/22/neil-gaimans-awesome-inspiring-funny-commencement-speech-at.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2012/5/22/neil-gaimans-awesome-inspiring-funny-commencement-speech-at.html"/><author><name>Leslie</name></author><published>2012-05-22T15:01:39Z</published><updated>2012-05-22T15:01:39Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 600px;" src="http://www.lightsandletters.com/storage/neil-gaiman-headlines-134th-commencement.jpeg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1337699298261" alt="" /></span><span class="thumbnail-caption" style="width: 600px;">Image from the University of Arts website.</span></span></p>
<p>I heart <a href="http://www.neilgaiman.com/">Neil Gaiman</a>. You might know this about me already. More than the work that he does, which is <a href="http://www.neilgaiman.com/works/Comics/">awesome</a> and <a href="http://www.neilgaiman.com/works/Books/">amazing</a>, his creative and free spirit is contagious. He recently gave the 134th commencement speech at the <a href="http://uarts.edu/">University of the Arts in Philadelphia</a> and everything he says is spot on for anyone thinking of making a living creating art, or really for anyone doing anything creative. Watch the video or read the transcript (<a href="http://uarts.edu/neil-gaiman-keynote-address">from the U Arts website</a>) below, and be inspired.</p>
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<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>134th Commencement<br />May 17, 2012</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>I never really expected to find myself giving advice to people graduating from an establishment of higher education.&nbsp; I never graduated from any such establishment. I never even started at one. I escaped from school as soon as I could, when the prospect of four more years of enforced learning before I'd become the writer I wanted to be was stifling.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>I got out into the world, I wrote, and I became a better writer the more I wrote, and I wrote some more, and nobody ever seemed to mind that I was making it up as I went along, they just read what I wrote and they paid for it, or they didn't, and often they commissioned me to write something else for them.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Which has left me with a healthy respect and fondness for higher education that those of my friends and family, who attended Universities, were cured of long ago.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Looking back, I've had a remarkable ride. I'm not sure I can call it a career, because a career implies that I had some kind of career plan, and I never did. The nearest thing I had was a list I made when I was 15 of everything I wanted to do: to write an adult novel, a children's book, a comic, a movie, record an audiobook, write an episode of&nbsp;Doctor Who... and so on. I didn't have a career. I just did the next thing on the list.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>So I thought I'd tell you everything I wish I'd known starting out, and a few things that, looking back on it, I suppose that I did know. And that I would also give you the best piece of advice I'd ever got, which I completely failed to follow.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em><strong>First of all</strong>: When you start out on a career in the arts you have no idea what you are doing.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>This is great. People who know what they are doing know the rules, and know what is possible and impossible. You do not. And you should not. The rules on what is possible and impossible in the arts were made by people who had not tested the bounds of the possible by going beyond them. And you can.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>If you don't know it's impossible it's easier to do. And because nobody's done it before, they haven't made up rules to stop anyone doing that again, yet.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em><strong>Secondly</strong>, If you have an idea of what you want to make, what you were put here to do, then just go and do that.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And that's much harder than it sounds and, sometimes in the end, so much easier than you might imagine. Because normally, there are things you have to do before you can get to the place you want to be. I wanted to write comics and novels and stories and films, so I became a journalist, because journalists are allowed to ask questions, and to simply go and find out how the world works, and besides, to do those things I needed to write and to write well, and I was being paid to learn how to write economically,&nbsp; crisply, sometimes under adverse conditions, and on time.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Sometimes the way to do what you hope to do will be clear cut, and sometimes&nbsp; it will be almost impossible to decide whether or not you are doing the correct thing, because you'll have to balance your goals and hopes with feeding yourself, paying debts, finding work, settling for what you can get.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Something that worked for me was imagining that where I wanted to be &ndash; an author, primarily of fiction, making good books, making good comics and supporting myself through my words &ndash; was a mountain. A distant mountain. My goal.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And I knew that as long as I kept walking towards the mountain I would be all right. And when I truly was not sure what to do, I could stop, and think about whether it was taking me towards or away from the mountain. I said no to editorial jobs on magazines, proper jobs that would have paid proper money because I knew that, attractive though they were, for me they would have been walking away from the mountain. And if those job offers had come along earlier I might have taken them, because they still would have been closer to the mountain than I was at the time.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>I learned to write by writing. I tended to do anything as long as it felt like an adventure, and to stop when it felt like work, which meant that life did not feel like work.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em><strong>Thirdly</strong>, When you start off, you have to deal with the problems of failure. You need to be thickskinned, to learn that not every project will survive. A freelance life, a life in the arts, is sometimes like putting messages in bottles, on a desert island, and hoping that someone will find one of your bottles and open it and read it, and put something in a bottle that will wash its way back to you: appreciation, or a commission, or money, or love. And you have to accept that you may put out a hundred things for every bottle that winds up coming back.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>The problems of failure are problems of discouragement, of hopelessness, of hunger. You want everything to happen and you want it now, and things go wrong. My first book &ndash; a piece of journalism I had done for the money, and which had already bought me an electric typewriter&nbsp; from the advance &ndash; should have been a bestseller. It should have paid me a lot of money. If the publisher hadn't gone into involuntary liquidation between the first print run selling out and the second printing, and before any royalties could be paid, it would have done.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And I shrugged, and I still had my electric typewriter and enough money to pay the rent for a couple of months, and I decided that I would do my best in future not to write books just for the money. If you didn't get the money, then you didn't have anything. If I did work I was proud of, and I didn't get the money, at least I'd have the work.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Every now and again, I forget that rule, and whenever I do, the universe kicks me hard and reminds me. I don't know that it's an issue for anybody but me, but it's true that nothing I did where the only reason for doing it was the money was ever worth it, except as bitter experience. Usually I didn't wind up getting the money, either.&nbsp; The things I did because I was excited, and wanted to see them exist in reality have never let me down, and I've never regretted the time I spent on any of them.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>The problems of failure are hard.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>The problems of success can be harder, because nobody warns you about them.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>The first problem of any kind of even limited success is the unshakable conviction that you are getting away with something, and that any moment now they will discover you. It's Imposter Syndrome, something my wife Amanda christened the Fraud Police.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>In my case, I was convinced that there would be a knock on the door, and a man with a clipboard (I don't know why he carried a clipboard, in my head, but he did) would be there, to tell me it was all over, and they had caught up with me, and now I would have to go and get a real job, one that didn't consist of making things up and writing them down, and reading books I wanted to read. And then I would go away quietly and get the kind of job where you don't have to make things up any more.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>The problems of success. They're real, and with luck you'll experience them. The point where you stop saying yes to everything, because now the bottles you threw in the ocean are all coming back, and have to learn to say no.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>I watched my peers, and my friends, and the ones who were older than me and watch how miserable some of them were: I'd listen to them telling me that they couldn't envisage a world where they did what they had always wanted to do any more, because now they had to earn a certain amount every month just to keep where they were. They couldn't go and do the things that mattered, and that they had really wanted to do; and that seemed as a big a tragedy as any problem of failure.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And after that, the biggest problem of success is that the world conspires to stop you doing the thing that you do, because you are successful. There was a day when I looked up and realised that I had become someone who professionally replied to email, and who wrote as a hobby.&nbsp; I started answering fewer emails, and was relieved to find I was writing much more.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em><strong>Fourthly</strong>, I hope you'll make mistakes. If you're making mistakes, it means you're out there doing something. And the mistakes in themselves can be useful. I once misspelled Caroline, in a letter, transposing the A and the O, and I thought, &ldquo;Coraline&nbsp;looks like a real name...&rdquo;</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And remember that whatever discipline you are in, whether you are a musician or a photographer, a fine artist or a cartoonist, a writer, a dancer, a designer, whatever you do you have one thing that's unique. You have the ability to make art.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And for me, and for so many of the people I have known, that's been a lifesaver. The ultimate lifesaver. It gets you through good times and it gets you through the other ones.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Life is sometimes hard. Things go wrong, in life and in love and in business and in friendship and in health and in all the other ways that life can go wrong. And when things get tough, this is what you should do.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Make good art.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>I'm serious. Husband runs off with a politician? Make good art. Leg crushed and then eaten by mutated boa constrictor? Make good art. IRS on your trail? Make good art. Cat exploded? Make good art. Somebody on the Internet thinks what you do is stupid or evil or it's all been done before? Make good art. Probably things will work out somehow, and eventually time will take the sting away, but that doesn't matter. Do what only you do best. Make good art.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Make it on the good days too.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And&nbsp;<strong>Fifthly</strong>, while you are at it, make&nbsp;your&nbsp;art. Do the stuff that only you can do.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>The urge, starting out, is to copy. And that's not a bad thing. Most of us only find our own voices after we've sounded like a lot of other people. But the one thing that you have that nobody else has is&nbsp;you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>The moment that you feel that, just possibly, you're walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself. That's the moment you may be starting to get it right.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>The things I've done that worked the best were the things I was the least certain about, the stories where I was sure they would either work, or more likely be the kinds of embarrassing failures people would gather together and talk about&nbsp; until the end of time. They always had that in common: looking back at them, people explain why they were inevitable successes. While I was doing them, I had no idea.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>I still don't. And where would be the fun in making something you knew was going to work?</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And sometimes the things I did really didn't work. There are stories of mine that have never been reprinted. Some of them never even left the house. But I learned as much from them as I did from the things that worked.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em><strong>Sixthly.&nbsp;</strong>I will pass on some secret freelancer knowledge. Secret knowledge is always good. And it is useful for anyone who ever plans to create art for other people, to enter a freelance world of any kind. I learned it in comics, but it applies to other fields too. And it's this:</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>People get hired because, somehow, they get hired. In my case I did something which these days would be easy to check, and would get me into trouble, and when I started out, in those pre-internet days, seemed like a sensible career strategy: when I was asked by editors who I'd worked for, I lied. I listed a handful of magazines that sounded likely, and I sounded confident, and I got jobs. I then made it a point of honour to have written something for each of the magazines I'd listed to get that first job, so that I hadn't actually lied, I'd just been chronologically challenged... You get work however you get work.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>People keep working, in a freelance world, and more and more of today's world is freelance, because their work is good, and because they are easy to get along with, and because they deliver the work on time. And you don't even need all three. Two out of three is fine. People will tolerate how unpleasant you are if your work is good and you deliver it on time. They'll forgive the lateness of the work if it's good, and if they like you. And you don't have to be as good as the others if you're on time and it's always a pleasure to hear from you.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>When I agreed to give this address, I started trying to think what the best advice I'd been given over the years was.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And it came from Stephen King twenty years ago, at the height of the success of Sandman. I was writing a comic that people loved and were taking seriously. King had liked&nbsp;Sandman&nbsp;and my novel with Terry Pratchett,&nbsp;Good Omens, and he saw the madness, the long signing lines, all that, and his advice was this:</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>&ldquo;This is really great. You should enjoy it.&rdquo;</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And I didn't. Best advice I got that I ignored.Instead I worried about it. I worried about the next deadline, the next idea, the next story. There wasn't a moment for the next fourteen or fifteen years that I wasn't writing something in my head, or wondering about it. And I didn't stop and look around and go,&nbsp;this is really fun. I wish I'd enjoyed it more. It's been an amazing ride. But there were parts of the ride I missed, because I was too worried about things going wrong, about what came next, to enjoy the bit I was on.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>That was the hardest lesson for me, I think: to let go and enjoy the ride, because the ride takes you to some remarkable and unexpected places.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And here, on this platform, today, is one of those places. (I am enjoying myself immensely.)</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>To all today's graduates: I wish you luck. Luck is useful. Often you will discover that the harder you work, and the more wisely you work, the luckier you get. But there is luck, and it helps.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>We're in a transitional world right now, if you're in any kind of artistic field, because the nature of distribution is changing, the models by which creators got their work out into the world, and got to keep a roof over their heads and buy sandwiches while they did that, are all changing. I've talked to people at the top of the food chain in publishing, in bookselling, in all those areas, and nobody knows what the landscape will look like two years from now, let alone a decade away. The distribution channels that people had built over the last century or so are in flux for print, for visual artists, for musicians, for creative people of all kinds.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Which is, on the one hand, intimidating, and on the other, immensely liberating. The rules, the assumptions, the now-we're supposed to's of how you get your work seen, and what you do then, are breaking down. The gatekeepers are leaving their gates. You can be as creative as you need to be to get your work seen. YouTube and the web (and whatever comes after YouTube and the web) can give you more people watching than television ever did. The old rules are crumbling and nobody knows what the new rules are.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>So make up your own rules.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>Someone asked me recently how to do something she thought was going to be difficult, in this case recording an audio book, and I suggested she pretend that she was someone who could do it. Not pretend to do it, but pretend she was someone who could. She put up a notice to this effect on the studio wall, and she said it helped.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>So be wise, because the world needs more wisdom, and if you cannot be wise, pretend to be someone who is wise, and then just behave like they would.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>And now go, and make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes. Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for your being here. Make good art.</em></p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px;"><em>- Neil Gaiman</em></p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>Milo is Six Today!</title><category term="Birthday"/><category term="Family"/><category term="Milo"/><category term="Reflection"/><category term="Six"/><id>http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2012/5/21/milo-is-six-today.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2012/5/21/milo-is-six-today.html"/><author><name>Leslie</name></author><published>2012-05-21T22:41:37Z</published><updated>2012-05-21T22:41:37Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p>Six years ago I was in a hospital room marveling over a new little person in the world. He looked &nbsp;a little bit like he does today, but I had no idea what kind of boy he would grow up to be. I believe we become mothers the moment we decide to have children, some even before that, but when your child is born, when he moves from inside of you to out in the world, it is a wonder and something to be truly grateful for. (You can read about <a href="http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2006/6/21/milo-jetts-birth-story.html">Milo's birth</a> if you want all those magical details.)</p>
<p>Since <a href="http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2006/5/23/hes-here.html">my first post about him</a>, to this one 43 posts later, I have written about him growing up and I have discovered what kind of a boy he is. Full of compassion and empathy, curious and hungry for knowledge about how things work, he is loved by all and I am frequently told what a special boy he is by his teachers. I am so proud every single time.</p>
<p>He is taking karate, and is almost done kindergarten. He can read and write. I was flipping through his notebook at school and he has drawn so many beautiful pictures and written stories about them. One was a boy holding flowers and it said "For my Mom." It made me smile to find it. It's amazing how far he has come with reading and writing. He's so smart and he works so hard.</p>
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<p>He's just a good kid. He's kind, gentle and funny. I love him so much. We cuddle in bed and his legs and arms are getting so long. He puts his hand on my cheek and asks me if my heart is melting. I'd do anything for him.</p>
<p>The last three days we have been partying like six years olds. Saturday was a trip to the <a href="http://www.bronxzoo.com/">Bronx Zoo</a> and we walked around for six hours seeing everything we could see; seals, tigers (who we didn't see very well because they were sleeping), polar bears, brown bears, lions, giraffes, gorillas, flamingos, elephants on the Asia Monorail and the Butterfly tent. We ran to the Carousel at the end of the day to make sure we made it before it closed.</p>
<p>Sunday started with balloons on his chair and presents to open from us. A Magic kit, two Disney movies (Alladin and Lady &amp; the Tramp), two books (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Art-Max-David-Wiesner/dp/0618756639/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1337646100&amp;sr=8-1">Art &amp; Max</a> and <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Blackout-John-Rocco/dp/1423121902/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1337646121&amp;sr=1-1">Blackout</a>) and some Lego. Later we went to his cousin's house and he swam in the pool all afternoon with his brother and Dad. He is so confident in the pool now, and even though he is wearing a swimming vest, I can tell he is swimming so much better. We had ice cream cake and presents from the family, more Lego and an&nbsp;Xbox Kinect. Lucky kid, what a fun day.</p>
<p>Today was his real birthday and Quinn and I brought cupcakes into his school to share with his classmates and I read one of his new books to them. He came home and we set up the Xbox and danced, played racketball and went white water rafting for 2 hours. He got a few more presents; MORE Lego, <a href="http://www.kaboodle.com/reviews/retro-pinocchio-puzzles-set-of-6">a vintage style Pinochio puzzle</a>, a <a href="http://eeboo.com/store/show/BDLAD?parent=games">Slips &amp; Ladders game</a> and red velvet cupcakes (that I bought because I had NO TIME to make them).</p>
<p>I am TIRED! (Mostly I am tired because we started the birthday shenanigans after spending two nights in New York City visiting with friends, driving in twice. More on that soon.)</p>
<p>So, I write this without much thought or time. In 15 minutes I have to go read my boys a bedtime story. I haven't posted for almost a week because I've been so busy just living life. Tomorrow I will get back to my blog, my painting class and my planning for the future, but for now I am fully enjoying every moment of <a href="http://www.slate.com/articles/arts/books/2012/05/rosecrans_baldwin_s_paris_i_love_you_but_you_re_bringing_me_down_reviewed_.html">my friend's successes</a>, <a href="http://www.mimiandmegblog.com/2012/05/nyc-blogstar-supper.html">real life dinners with bloggers</a>, a <a href="http://timessquare.lilliesnyc.com/">night in the city</a> <a href="http://www.thetimeny.com/index.html">with my husband</a>, 5 hour visits with old friends from Canada and my boy's birthday. You have to grab the opportunities when they come, make the most of them, and savor every single moment of our good lives. Our children grow up too fast and before we know it they are not six, but sixteen, and they don't want to go to the Zoo anymore.</p>
<p>In the grocery store I was looking through birthday cards for Milo and somehow I ended up in the grown-up son section. The cards wistfully looked back at when adult sons had been little and it was weird. I had two thoughts: 1. I should buy these for the future because they are decently designed and it's hard to find good cards sometimes and 2. I am scared of the times when I look back at these days wistfully. I don't want to wish that I had spent more time playing Xbox, or reading books. I want to do it all now, while I can. So when my blog goes quiet for a week, forgive me and imagine me simply hanging out with my family and enjoying my life. I'll get back to work soon enough.</p>]]></content></entry><entry><title>A Feather</title><category term="Creative Work"/><category term="Drawing"/><category term="Feather"/><category term="Illustration"/><id>http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2012/5/15/a-feather.html</id><link rel="alternate" type="text/html" href="http://www.lightsandletters.com/writing/2012/5/15/a-feather.html"/><author><name>Leslie</name></author><published>2012-05-15T11:00:16Z</published><updated>2012-05-15T11:00:16Z</updated><content type="html" xml:lang="en-US"><![CDATA[<p><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><img style="width: 600px;" src="http://www.lightsandletters.com/storage/feather_sm.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1337008040858" alt="" /></span></span></p>
<p>Have you seen the movie <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dumbo">Dumbo</a> recently? Do you remember the scene where the birds give him a magic feather to help him fly? I was thinking about that when I drew this feather. Dumbo could already fly, but he just needed a little confidence.&nbsp;</p>
<p>I feel that way sometimes. Like I have all the skills and talents required to do great things, but I just can't quite figure out how to get off the ground. I get a great idea and I start working on it but it just doesn't go where I want it to, or it ends up being more work that I anticipated. I focus on one thing and something else suffers. I rebel against rules and constraints, while still trying to figure out the formula for success.&nbsp;</p>
<p>All of these courses and conferences I have been attending have stirred up so much good stuff, about what I love and who I want to be, but I feel like there are so many different possibilities that I can't make up my mind about which one is my best shot. At the Mom 2.0 Summit, <a href="http://justicefergie.com/">Stacey Ferguson</a>&nbsp;did one of the 7 minute talks and explained&nbsp;that it's ok to be multi-passionate. I don't have to choose just one path and I can pursue all my passions at once if I figure out the common thread and a way to make them all work together and complement each other. That is what I am trying to do.</p>
<p>I think I have also reached the point where I need to define WHY I am doing these things. What is my end goal? What is my success matrix? I believe it has grown beyond simply having a creative outlet and doing this for my own personal fulfillment and enjoyment. I want to inspire people, I want to build a community, I want to make some money. When I wrote <a href="http://www.sarahbrydenbrown.com/2012/05/03/leslie-fandrich-lights-and-letters/">my piece for BlogStar</a>, I think I came the closest I have ever been to defining why I write, take pictures and make art.</p>
<p>I want to fly, I just need a feather to help me get off the ground. It will be that magic thing that sets me apart, the secret ingredient, the awesome idea. It feels like it is on the tip of my tongue, I just need to grasp it.&nbsp;I know I will get it, I just have to keep working at it. Re-assessing, re-evaluating, re-calibrating. I just need to keep learning, creating and connecting and one of these days it will all coalesce&nbsp;into something amazing.&nbsp;</p>]]></content></entry></feed>
